Tuesday, April 20, 2004
I don't know if your local newspapers (in print or online) has a Dear Abby advice column. But, in the Washington Post, this person was saying that she had hosted a party and there was a deaf man. She noticed that he was all alone and that nobody really talked to him. He said that he was just simply there for his hearing wife.
You should check it out and see if you agree with Abby's answers. Let me know what you think.
This is all too familiar for Deafies. We're often left alone in parties or events when the majority of the people are hearing. We're used to it. For a short time, hearing people will come up to us with their limited jerky signs. Just saying this reminds me of an incident with Rosey at Springfield Mall. Roe, remmy? We were in line at Sbarro's to order our meals. I was first in line and Rosey behind me. Behind Rosey was this guy. He saw us signing and then he tapped Roe's shoulder. He was trying his darnest to sign, which wasn't working. He was saying something like I'm taking ASL 1 or 2 at college. Rosey just nodded and then turned away while he was in mid-sentence. I was like...omigod! He was just staring at her and he just stopped signing. Roe said..."go back and learn more signs and then come talk to me later when you can sign better." LOL But then, when you think about it, it's true. Would you really wanna be with someone who knows shit for signs and spend the next 2 hours teaching signs...someone that you just won't see again?
Anyways...back to the point...we're just all too familiar with that surrounding. It works the other way around as well. When we have a Deaf event or party, all the Deafies are chatting together and the hearies are huddled together in a corner. So, should the Deaf host make an effort to include the hearies with Deafies? Or TFB for them?
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You should check it out and see if you agree with Abby's answers. Let me know what you think.
This is all too familiar for Deafies. We're often left alone in parties or events when the majority of the people are hearing. We're used to it. For a short time, hearing people will come up to us with their limited jerky signs. Just saying this reminds me of an incident with Rosey at Springfield Mall. Roe, remmy? We were in line at Sbarro's to order our meals. I was first in line and Rosey behind me. Behind Rosey was this guy. He saw us signing and then he tapped Roe's shoulder. He was trying his darnest to sign, which wasn't working. He was saying something like I'm taking ASL 1 or 2 at college. Rosey just nodded and then turned away while he was in mid-sentence. I was like...omigod! He was just staring at her and he just stopped signing. Roe said..."go back and learn more signs and then come talk to me later when you can sign better." LOL But then, when you think about it, it's true. Would you really wanna be with someone who knows shit for signs and spend the next 2 hours teaching signs...someone that you just won't see again?
Anyways...back to the point...we're just all too familiar with that surrounding. It works the other way around as well. When we have a Deaf event or party, all the Deafies are chatting together and the hearies are huddled together in a corner. So, should the Deaf host make an effort to include the hearies with Deafies? Or TFB for them?
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